The Struggle is Real

Are you in the struggle with your children and think it will never end? Are they driving you crazy? Remind yourself it will end and then tell yourself you’re doing a great job. You may not believe that right now, but the struggle will be over in a blink of an eye.

The Struggle Goes Fast

While going through the struggle of nursing at home or at work, the continual crying at bedtime, and the terrible twos and threes, say to yourself, “I am Woman, I am invincible!” When you’re in the struggle, it seems like it will never end. However, as a mom who speaks to her children, who across the country, on video chat or the phone, it seems like I was in the struggle just yesterday and now it’s over.

I remember rocking them as they had their crying days and ending up on their bedroom floor hoping my arm muscles would hold out. I recall the sleepless nights and thinking I’d never get another minute of rest, and just like that it’s over.

Enjoy the Struggle

As I think back, I remember the crazy schedules as they began to have play dates, birthday parties, and sports events. I remember how we would seem to be going a mile a minute. Thank God we would be sure to have days where we did nothing on Sundays but attend church, visit our favorite donut store, and share them with the grandparents.

As you move through your moments of struggle, remind yourself that you are doing a great job. Your mothering skills can only get better and you will see the end of the tunnel. Nonetheless, keep in mind that with the snap of a finger, it all seems to end very quickly.

I remember the first time someone told me that. At first I was wishing for that moment to happen right there and then. This was the time I was in the middle of my frustration with getting my little one to go to sleep. I was beginning to stress every night knowing that the crying was about to start.

Befriend the Struggle

Bear in mind, I recall the hard times of going through miscarriages and praying for my children. But now that they were here, I felt overwhelmed. They were driving me crazy. I would put them in their cribs and go into the bathroom with the ventilating fan on and the shower running just to cry and get away from it all for a few minutes. Although it seems like yesterday, it is over in a flash.

Turn Struggle Into Harmony

What I’m trying to say is to try to enjoy every minute of the insanity. It’s going to be crazy. It’s going to make you frustrated and make you feel like you’re losing your mind. Learn some strategies for you to do to get through it all.

However, the best part is getting to the end where you’re planning your trip to their graduation. I look forward to the next few weeks when I’ll be sitting under the tarp by the ocean in Newport, Rhode Island and soaking up all the love, happiness, and blessings that will be swirling around me.