I believe our lessons come to us when we are ready. As we go through life, we learn new information and strategies. These help us to handle our feelings and how they relate to our upcoming lesson. Unfolding the Dysfunction I’m sure there are many who were brought up in a family of dysfunction like me. While I’ve been moving through this, I can see how the way I was treated had a big impact on my adult life. I…
Don’t you just love those ah ha moments? While living with thoughts that I knew were true, I realized where they actually come from and had the deer in the headlights. I was so amazed in that moment that I actually caught myself in an open mouth stare. Observation Brings Lessons When realizing discovery and healing are different and both take time, it was a great eye opener. Sometimes someone’s behavior makes you question your own. When this happens, don’t…
As I look back to what I went through and accomplished, I truly see what a wonderful year I had. Of course there were the life lessons and things that didn’t actually go as planned, but when I really take time to sit in all the things I learned and tried, I feel pretty good. Learning the Lesson I’m learning that having a good year is not just having one great thing happen after another with no negative moments or…
Have you ever felt so left out? Left out of your own family and the community around you? What a weird feeling to experience how others feel about your presence. Some don’t like what you look like and even your name. It seems we have moved into another stage of criticism where people don’t care about anything and let you know it. Hurt Brings the Lesson In the past, I was a victim of a family member posting mean and…
Sometimes I feel the universe uses things in our lives to slow us down. In order for us to learn something deep, we rest to find what must be handled. I ended up coming down with a sinus infection that made me stop and take a look around my own head cave of thoughts. To my surprise, I learned of a wonderful spiritual soul who I knew as an actress from one of my favorite movies. Hearing her wisdom and…
As an author of my parenting book, Parenting Scholar Athletes, www.amazon.com/dp/0578909499, my dream was coming true and it was becoming noticed. However, just as I was enjoying the accolades of my effort, I was also noticed by others who wanted to debate my book. I’m lucky to have a supportive writing group who are of great support for me. When I reached out to other writers, I remember the words of sweet Ivy reminding me. She said, “When you start…
Disappointment can make us all feel not enough at first, but later we can think of ideas to move forward. Lucky for me my disappointment brought up some deep childhood trauma to help me learn how to move into a more regulated state when it comes to my feelings. When something in life doesn’t go your way, especially when it connects to a passion like writing, the feeling of being defeated occurs. At this point, some can easily bring in…
When someone asked me if there were really signs from others passed, I said Yes. As you start getting goose bumps and your eyes widen, keep in mind that these signs all depend on you. I have found that signs are all around us every minute of the day. What we have to do to see them is to be in the right mindset. Think about it, when you’re caught up in some kind of stress or fear, you’re not…
Have you ever had one of those days where you think out loud, “Boy, this has certainly been a long week”, and you realize it’s Tuesday? I’m sure we’ve all had that happen. In my case, it was my early childhood trauma being unleashed once I opened the Pandora box at my counselor’s office. Because I need to learn new tools to communicate better with my husband, I decided to seek an expert. Learning & Understanding Our Emotions We all…
Have you ever found yourself asking this question and sometimes it’s while tears stream down your face? I had such a wonderful ah-ha moment that I needed to share. So simply breathe in slowly and them exhale about three times and then continue. Choose to be open, let your empathy out for yourself, and smile. The Struggles are a Good Sign It seems I struggle more with the same people in my life. After this experience, I can see that…